I may be showing my hand...

So I just started the book, and it took 13 pages before I knew that this book would help.

The author writing,

Marriage has been a privilege and a blessing to me. It has also been the context for a surprising discovery. I found that being okay in Christ was not quite enough for me. When I was first married, I knew that Jesus loved me, but I also wanted my new wife to be absolutely, forever smitten with me. I needed love from her. I could finally handle small amounts of rejection from other people, but I felt paralyzed if I didn't have the love I needed from her. I needed unconditional love. If she didn't think I was a great husband, I would be crushed.

This led to a second awakening. I suddenly realized that I had mutated into a walking love tank, a person who was empty inside and looking for a person to fill me. My bride was, indeed, gifted in being able to love, but no one could have possibly filled me. I think that I was a love tank with a leak. I tried old biblical answers that had worked before my marriage, but they were of no use. They didn't go far enough. In fact, they became almost irrelevant. They reminded me of times when, after I'd been politely dumped by a girl, my parents would try to cheer me up with "we love you no matter what." I always appreciated their attempt, but, as all parents and children know, it didn't help. Sure, it was nice that my parents loved me, and it would have been much worse if they did not love me, but I wanted somebody else to love me too.

That last paragraph is me, through and through. I'm sure that God is going to use this book in my life to change me to look more like his son. And I won't settle for anything less.